Being unhappy with your life doesn't feel good and what happens when something doesn't feel good? We avoid it.
We spend the majority of our time running away from uncomfortable feelings. We want to avoid pain, suffering, anger, frustration, jealousy, embarrassment and many other negative emotions and physical sensations. When we have an aversion to the discomfort, we are not able to resolve it. It will continue to build up, to fester, to consume you until one day....
We become reactive. We lash out to the people we love, we make hasty decisions that are not based on sound logic, we let your emotions get the better of you. We all know what this feels like. It can be different. Mindfulness training can help.
What is Mindfulness?
Mindfulness is the ability to see things in the present moment and observe with non-judgemental awareness. Whether they are pleasant, unpleasant, or neutral sensations, we can witness what is arising with a clear and calm mind.
It allows us to be able to take a good look at what we are experiencing, whether it is a thought, feeling, emotion, or body sensation, without attaching to it or having a reaction to it. Often times our thoughts paint a picture or reality that is skewed and distorted, mindfulness help us to remove the filter and see things from a clear and open point of view.
Meditation is the tool we use to cultivate the skill of mindfulness. It is an intentional, formal practice that involves focused, non-judgmental awareness of present moment experiences. Although there are various types of mediation practices, starting with a simple yet effective breathing exercise is the foundation to any meditation technique.
What is Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion is the ability to treat ourselves like we would a good friend during a difficult time. It is the opportunity to offer ourselves the same level of love, tenderness, compassion, and support when we are going through something challenging. It involves a mindful awareness of what we are experiencing, an openness to accept what is arising, and an intentional supportive response instead of typical self-critical behaviours.
Self-compassion is a proven technique that helps you to accept your shortcomings, be at peace with your imperfections, and understand that we are all human beings doing the best that we can.